Self-help

codependency

Priority request: Children who are raised to believe that their feelings aren't significant learn to live through other people's emotions, leading to codependent behavior... Some estimates suggest that over 90 percent of the American population demonstrates codependent behavior.

"I don’t have bad days - I have bad moments"

Request: A saying in AA. To help one not dwell in pity and ruin a whole day.

Childhood Disrupted, by Donna Jackson Nakazawa

How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology, and How You Can Heal.

integrity is its own reward

Adhering to moral and ethical principles brings its own intrinsic benefits, even if it does not always lead to external recognition or rewards -- Brave AI.

relationship closure (concept)

Request: Is it positive or negative for you? Popular psychology claims its positive; in-depth studies claim otherwise.

Understand Myself personality test

Request. "Developed by a team of world-class psychologists led by Dr. Jordan B. Peterson, the Understand Myself personality report provides a multidimensional view of your beliefs and aspirations to help you thrive in an ever-changing world."

"Happiness is like a butterfly, the more you chase it, the more it will elude you...

"... But if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder" -- Henry David Thoreau. Priority request.

giving away your power

It can take many forms, such as holding beliefs that are not based in reality, or allowing someone else to have a negative influence over your thoughts, feelings, or behavior -- psychcentral.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey

At the end of 1994, U.S. President Bill Clinton invited Covey, along with other authors, to Camp David to counsel him on how to integrate the book's ideas into his presidency. In August 2011, Time listed 7 Habits as one of "The 25 Most Influential Business Management Books" -- wikipedia.

Man's Search for Meaning, by Viktor Frankl

"Frankl argues that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it, and move forward with renewed purpose" -- goodreads.

The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel van der Kolk

Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. The author "explores innovative treatments—from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga—that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain's natural neuroplasticity" -- goodreads.

The Courage to Be Disliked, by Ichiro Kishimi

A "philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own life, free from the shackles of past experiences, doubts, and the expectations of others" -- amazon.

statement: choosing your partner is the most important decision of your life

Request: It would be interesting to know how important the choice of our life partner ( romantic relationship ) is in our lives. My father and my girlfriend's father, who are both mature people, think that.

ignatia for depression

Priority request: I recently started St. John's wort after reading about it on the Database, and it's had an incredible effect. My health kinesiologist subsequently told me Ignatia is 'more effective.' I'm curious about the ADAP comparison, please.

bed nesting

A nicer way to say "bed rotting," a trending term with Gen-Z. It means staying under the covers with no purpose whatsoever, except to feel a little better.