Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, by Esther Perel
Can we desire what we already have? Does good intimacy always make for hot sex? -- book cover.
Self-help
Outwitting the Devil, by Napoleon Hill
"This long-suppressed parable, once considered too controversial to publish, was written by Hill in 1938" -- amazon.
The 5 Second Rule, by Mel Robbins
When you have a good idea to better yourself, do a "5...4...3...2...1..." countdown and get to it. If you give yourself any longer you will make an excuse and psyche yourself out -- Goodreads book review.
self-sabotaging
Request: engaging in behaviors, either consciously or unconsciously, that lead to the end of a relationship. This might involve pushing the other person away or finding reasons to get out of the relationship.
duty to one's parents
Priority request: I feel somewhat burdened by feeling like I have to please my parents, honor their wishes, fulfil their needs, which I recontextualize by telling myself that it is my duty to them. How far can this posture take me?
Opening Doors Within: 365 Daily Meditations
Book by Eileen Caddy.
a problem
A situation, matter, or person that is hard to deal with or understand. A personal matter that causes one difficulty or needs to be dealt with -- American Heritage Dictionary.
Stop Fixing Yourself, by Anthony De Mello
"People ask me, what do I need to do to change myself? If you're one of those people, I've got a big surprise for you! You don't have to do anything."
The Art of Exceptional Living, by Jim Rohn
"You don't have to do exceptional things at all. Just do ordinary things exceptionally well. That's The Art of Exceptional Living."
believing one’s life is worth less than another’s
Request: Related in some way to defeatism?
realizing one’s fundamental okayness
By request.
position: life has to be managed
Request: Instead of letting the flow of life take one along, trusting that God leads one in a good way…. I have to figure this out and strain!!!
concept of "open loops" reducing cognitive capacity
Request: Is it true that this diminished our capacity for attention to other things, or is it merely a matter of attachment to the undone tasks & the feeling of being in control?
level: money comes when it's needed
Request: I have a fear of losing money and sometimes get stingy.
“Do what makes you happy”
Pretty good life advice.