the peace of admitting "I don't know"
In the radical honesty of not knowing, feeling neither lack nor a burdened obligation to find out.
Self-help
fear of rejection
Request: Common concern for people.
family enmeshment
Request: I noticed close family often brings up heavy emotions to let go of. Sometimes it’s hard to differentiate who’s emotions belong to who.
wanting to fix oneself
Request: Curious how this calibrates since I realized that this has come to motivate part of my spiritual work and it seems to be of the spiritual ego.
level: a couple is able to talk through any problem
Priority request.
Wherever You Go, There You Are, by Jon Kabat-Zinn
Request: A book on mindfulness meditation and slowing down.
level: not responding to insults or provocations
Priority request: To avoid emotional involvement on our part. (I’ve just understood it is useless to reason with certain people).
level: my life matters
Request: Helpful for those who feel worthless?
integrity is its own reward
Adhering to moral and ethical principles brings its own intrinsic benefits, even if it does not always lead to external recognition or rewards -- Brave AI.
deciding not to be a victim
Opting out of the victim/perpetrator model.
avoiding the news in order to reduce stress
"researchers looked at how people were best able to manage feelings of anxiety and depression at the height of the pandemic, finding that one of the most effective methods was to take breaks from the barrage of bad news" --nbcnews.
all I need is just to be
Key to excellence.
duty to one's parents
Priority request: I feel somewhat burdened by feeling like I have to please my parents, honor their wishes, fulfil their needs, which I recontextualize by telling myself that it is my duty to them. How far can this posture take me?
dopamine fasting
"a form of digital detox, involving temporarily abstaining from addictive technologies such as social media, listening to music on technological platforms, and Internet gaming, and can be extended to temporary deprivation of social interaction and eating" -- wikipedia.
statement: life is meant to be enjoyed
Yes, but where does that get us? Answer: independence.