giving away your power
It can take many forms, such as holding beliefs that are not based in reality, or allowing someone else to have a negative influence over your thoughts, feelings, or behavior -- psychcentral.
Self-help
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey
At the end of 1994, U.S. President Bill Clinton invited Covey, along with other authors, to Camp David to counsel him on how to integrate the book's ideas into his presidency. In August 2011, Time listed 7 Habits as one of "The 25 Most Influential Business Management Books" -- wikipedia.
Man's Search for Meaning, by Viktor Frankl
"Frankl argues that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it, and move forward with renewed purpose" -- goodreads.
The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel van der Kolk
Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. The author "explores innovative treatments—from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga—that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain's natural neuroplasticity" -- goodreads.
The Courage to Be Disliked, by Ichiro Kishimi
A "philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own life, free from the shackles of past experiences, doubts, and the expectations of others" -- amazon.
statement: choosing your partner is the most important decision of your life
Request: It would be interesting to know how important the choice of our life partner ( romantic relationship ) is in our lives. My father and my girlfriend's father, who are both mature people, think that.
ignatia for depression
Priority request: I recently started St. John's wort after reading about it on the Database, and it's had an incredible effect. My health kinesiologist subsequently told me Ignatia is 'more effective.' I'm curious about the ADAP comparison, please.
bed nesting
A nicer way to say "bed rotting," a trending term with Gen-Z. It means staying under the covers with no purpose whatsoever, except to feel a little better.
The Happiest Man on Earth, by Eddie Jaku
The Beautiful Life of an Auschwitz Survivor. Priority request.
hitting rock bottom
Request: I've not had huge success with this, as it felt like it just kept getting lower, so I'm curious about its calibration.
statement: loving others is no substitute for loving yourself
Loving others is heart-based, while loving yourself is thymus-based. As the heart dimension is nested within the thymus dimension, loving others serves the highest good only in the context of loving yourself. (The highest good includes you!)
positive procrastination: a spiritual tool
Immediately halt the ego's victim mentality and involvement with suffering by saying "I'll be oppressed later, now is not a good time." Turns out, there's never a good time to feel oppressed, in spite of the ego's attachment to resentment and its predilection for suffering. In time, these fade away.
cultivating an aesthetic physical appearance
Request: some view it as vain.
childhood trauma
these might include neglect, abandonment, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, and physical abuse, witnessing abuse of a sibling or parent, or having a mentally ill parent -- wikipedia.
honest mistake
Request: a mistake made unintentionally or unknowingly and without the intention of causing harm; a mistake that anyone might have made in similar circumstances.