Behaviors

manipulating others

Request: I’m noticing behaviour designed to control other people for a desire outcome. Sometimes on a small and seemingly harmless scale. And in some people this energy is compulsive and frequent. The intention can be conscious or unconscious.

going with the flow

Priority request: to take life moment to moment. It is to be as flexible, adaptable, and relaxed as possible with an emphasis on not worrying about the future or past. It is often compared to floating down a river and handling what occurs as it arises with as much ease as possible.

learning from your mistakes

Are mistakes just valuable life lessons?

overthinking

"to put too much time into thinking about or analyzing (something) in a way that is more harmful than helpful" -- merriam-webster.

suppression

"the conscious process of pushing unwanted, anxiety-provoking thoughts, memories, emotions, fantasies and desires out of awareness" -- scientificamerican.

speaking your mind / being blunt / “no filter”

Not a matter of appropriateness or consideration.

complaining

A form of communication that expresses dissatisfaction regardless of having actually experienced the subjective feeling of dissatisfaction or not -- wikipedia.

underpromise, overdeliver

The solution to overpromise, underdeliver?

overpromise, underdeliver

Overpromising and under-delivering is not redundant, as the promise and delivery are separate in time and context; one can overpromise and still overdeliver, though the latter is rare and often unsustainable -- Brave AI.

not being able to stop thinking about someone

Request: It's been a whole year where I have thought about a particular person every day (I haven't talked to them in a whole year). I chuckle because I know it's the mind/ego being attached to the idea of the person.

to stop looking to the mind to find Truth

Priority request: Realizing that the mind does not have any verifiable answers removes one's involvement with the mind's concepts and questions.

asking to "like, comment, subscribe" on YouTube, etc.

Request: content creators ask the audience to like and subscribe to the channel for the YouTube algorithm... Perhaps due to the ~190 YouTube algorithm, they're playing the game at that level?

sending loving thoughts to people

Request: I been doing that recently and feels really warm doing so. I wanted to know if these loving thoughts really do make a difference. Especially towards those who we perceive to "hurt" us. I wonder if this is a legitimate spiritual practice?

stake everything on one card

Request: The opposite of keeping one's options open.

approval seeking

Request: After switching my thinking to do things for me, my anxiety went away about having to do things to make other people "happy" or seek their approval.