"It's better to be alone than with the wrong person"
Request: Recontextualization for single people.
Self-help
statement: the future is not something to think about, but to create
Priority request: saying of the SF writer.
The Heroine's Journey, by Maureen Murdock
Priority request: "Drawing on cultural myths and fairy tales, ancient symbols and goddesses, and the dreams of contemporary women, Murdock illustrates the need for—and the reality of—feminine values in Western culture" -- amazon
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay C. Gibson
Priority request. Discover the four types of difficult parents: the emotional parent, the driven parent, the passive parent, the rejecting parent -- amazon
God Loves me and I Love Myself, by Mark DeJesus
Priority request: I found this book and thought it would be really good for the thymus/self love dimension as well as recontextualizing several persistent spiritual ego "do gooder" positionalities.
Love & Respect, by Emerson Eggerichs
The book is built upon the theory that the "primary emotional needs" for men and women, respectively are that men need respect and women need love... the more respect a woman shows her husband, the more love and kindness he will show her" -- wikipedia
HeartMath App & Sensor
Priority request. HRV biofeedback to help you access a healthy and high performance state called heart coherence which balances your mind and emotions. This helps prevent stress and clears your thinking for more effective choices
"stay in your lane"
An integrous boundary thing.
Healing the Shame that Binds You, by John Bradshaw
"...This book has helped millions identify their personal shame, understand the underlying reasons for it, address these root causes and release themselves from the shame that binds them to their past failures" --Amazon
Many Lives, Many Masters, by Brian L. Weiss
"The True Story of a Prominent Psychiatrist, His Young Patient, and the Past-Life Therapy That Changed Both Their Lives"
Emotional Blackmail, by Susan Forward
When the people in your life use fear, obligation, and guilt to manipulate you. The author provides a practical guide to better communication that will break the blackmail cycle for good. --Amazon
having a beard vs. being clean shaven
Calibrated: the level at which this is a question of significance. Levels lower or higher likely don't care much one way or the other.
learning from your mistakes
Are mistakes just valuable life lessons?
Codependent No More, by Melody Beattie
How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. A self-help book that has helped millions of readers understand codependency, the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another -- biblio.com
abdicating one’s power
request: also, what is a good way to mitigate this? It often occurs to me, that even by fighting to reclaim it you have already bought the premise that your power is vulnerable?