giving up
Request: To cease making an effort; resign oneself to failure. Seems to be the ego's idea of what surrender is.
Behaviors
not wanting to get up in the morning
Request: What underlies this behavior?
carrying weapons for self-defense
Request: Legal ones. Fear? Not trusting God? Or perhaps self-love?
crybaby
One who cries or complains easily or often -- merriam-webster. By request.
hiding one's weaknesses from others so they don't attack there
An underlying question is whether hiding one's weakness is deception (at 140). Request: [is this] fear or prudence?
deception
"causing someone to accept as true or valid what is false or invalid" -- merriam-webster.
fear of missing out (FOMO)
"associated with a fear of regret, which may lead to concerns that one might miss an opportunity for social interaction, a novel experience, a memorable event, profitable investment or the comfort of those you love and who love you back" -- wikipedia.
saying to somebody: you are nobody, a loser
Request: I hear that in my life, and people treat me like that.
judging others by their past mistakes
Request: Most people have hidden negative past actions, but such secrets can eventually surface. Assuming they will be fully resolved may be unrealistic. Doc in "TtLoC" noted that unconditional love can impair judgment. How can we balance being non-judgmental with avoiding naivety?
ignoring someone so they will like you
Request: I am aware that this is manipulative, and it even seems sociopathic to me. However, I was given this "dating advice" recently by someone and would like to know how it calibrates.
seeing only the best in others or oneself
Is ignoring negativity a workable way to approach life? Also calibrated: seeing only the worst in others or oneself.
typing out a question on a post and then deleting it...
...because the answer was intuited and understood. Request: when interacting with the database and community. It seems like... the field silently answers my question or comment without actually having to post it. Is this possibly spiritual ego or is this a product of the collective psyche?
not using your real name in the Database
Request: I've been seeing people without their real names. Is this pride?
being overweight and not trying to be a healthy weight
vs. being a healthy weight. By request.
statement: it is self-hating to stay in a situation that doles out abuse in any form
Request: I am considering leaving a job with an abusive boss and was wondering if I'm only staying for self hating reasons. It seems possible, because financially I will be fine if I leave.